This is my sixth child in a high school. And my 4th high school. So on schools I have great experience. My first child had is nose broken by an attack by another student. The same student tried it again a year later and got his arm broken for his efforts. My child was expelled for getting his nose broken and again for breaking the arm of the other student. "Must have been doing something wrong to be attacked" Was the schools thery. That student that did the attacking has now inherited step dads business and is flourishing. Mine feels that the world has picked on them longenough and is fighting back finally. I don't like the person that child is now. I actually afraid of that one. I didn't stand up for them when that child was clearly wronged. I should have
My second child breezed through school except there was a dirty nasty kid who kept knocking my child down and crapping on my kid. This child is extremely well liked, and is flourishing in life and has got a great little little family. I stood up for that one.
Number three. Had minor difficulties nothing spectacular. And their life is nothing spectacular now. Child,divorce etc. etc.
Num4 Took a pocket knife to school just months after Columbine. I let that one suffer the consequences of their actions. But the school was really cool. They listened to what that child had to say and discussed with that child the many options that they had for discipline. AND LET MY CHILD CHOOSE WHICH ONE. Community service 6 months. That child no has an excellent job a great spouse and beautiful little girl.
Num5 Almost died at birth and the school system he started out in wasn't willing to do anything they didn't absolutely need to. His first year at junior high, after having a great deal of trouble getting the school to understand his needs, he told me he "Felt Like I waisted the whole year, They didn't even teach me to open my locker!" I moved!! The school system we moved to was very help full. They developed a plan to help him thrive. They developed a plan to teach him how to do anything. He now thrives. Lives on his own(which none of the grade or junior high schools ever thought he would. Has a nice smart lovable fiance and has taken a year of college. Has a good job.All of those things were thought not possible by all previous schools. Thank you Wapello school system.
That tought me that even though the parent has influence on their child it is the schools willingness to be creative and teaches each child not just a classroom. It taught me that each child is different and to look at the NEEDS of the child and to above all listen. (It takes a village to raise a child) Divorce moved me to MHS
Oneteacher at MHS was willing to listen, but the powers that be had their minds made up before they even met with me over the situation. A victim is responsible for there attackers actions is the message my child is getting from this Great education at MHS. Its called the "rape syndrome". It is what almost every woman who was raped felt after dealing with the police and courts. (been there done that one too in my life) This is why I feel so fundamental wrong in MHS decision about punishing the victim. That should NEVER happen.
And from hearing from so many of you, that seams to be MHS attitude. Brush the victim under the carpet and get rid of them. That gets rid of the problem. Except what I've learned from experience tells me that does not get rid of the problem. Eventually the victim either is a victim in every aspect of life or they rear up as an adult and become societies problem. As my eldest has become. Every one of us pays for that punishment that one received as a child. You now pay for it. In and out of prison what six time now. Drug crimes now. What else I don't even want to know. But we all pay for that decision. I saw the change in that one as it was happening. I didn't fight to stop it then. Am I to let an unfair decision again effect my child. There is only so much I can do to explain this. We will all sit back and see how this ends. Does this child even out or does this child flourish in a positive way. We will all pay for any mistakes in the life of a child when they feel like what they do and what they say doesn't matter. The do exactly what THEY want wright or wrong. And right or wrong we shall see.
PS. Does any one know the name of a good attorney.
